My brilliant advice to my daughter, which I'm trying to remember to follow myself, is to take this challenging period one day at a time. It seems that's the best I can come up with. Really. In the meantime, here's what I got done, somehow, last week:
Done for the Week: Oct. 17-Oct. 23, 2011
- Continued 5K training with my youngest son, in preparation for his first race--Finished Week 8 of 9 Week Couch-Potato-to-5K program
- Took my son shopping for new running shoes, and running gear
- Cheered my son after he came in 5th in his age group in the Fall Classic 5K, and 24th overall!
- Won my age group , beating last year's time by 3+ minutes
- Ran three times (including race), swam once
- Read Where the God of Love Hangs Out, by Amy Bloom, Once Upon a Time There Was You, by Elizabeth Berg, and Squirrel Seeks Chipmunk: A Modest Bestiary, by David Sedaris
- Continued to work my two part-time jobs
- Published 2 blog posts
- Continued significant work on current clients' projects
- Continued to give nearly full-time support to my daughter and her family as they coped with early arrival of their baby, and my daughter's continuing health problems
- Helped my son purchase required laptop for school
- Celebrated my son's first day in technical college automotive program
- Went out for happy hour with my husband
- Saw The Ides of March with my husband
- Watched first episode of Boss with my husband
- Did laundry
- Continued reading Elizabeth George's A Traitor to Memory aloud with my husband
- Paid our household bills
- Vacuumed several dogs worth of hair off our living room carpet
- Entertained my out-of-town stepdaughter and her two sons, and arranged a family tennis outing
- Took my grandson to his swimming lesson
I am working hard, but not minding the commitment or its requirements. For whatever reason--probably the rewards of having had my own surprise children, and the lessons of relinquishing control when it was denied me--it is easy for me to take the long view. This time will be here and gone before we know it, along with its special opportunities. I am grateful to have the freedom and flexibility to be able to support my daughter in this way.
Last week's focus goal, in the midst of this adventure, was to "fit in three runs, in preparation for Sunday's race." I managed to run twice before the race, and to swim once while taking my grandson for his swimming lesson. Not ideal preparation for our race, given that I had only trained once the previous week, but the best I could do. And good training in acceptance.
Next week's focus goal is to resume meditating. Period.